There
is a sense of isolation sometimes, for educators. We feel alone in our
wilderness- often trying to pull back the foliage and climb the vines towards
the light, all the while leading a group of explorers behind us. Each with a
machete in hand, carving out their own path. There is no way we can get our
students to follow us into the jungle if we do not excite them and engage them
with stories of adventure and discovery.
We
have to create such a sense of curiosity, that even the darkest and densely overgrown
of forests, will seem traversable. Even better, attainable with a hint of
obstruction. A clear field is not exciting, but a primeval forest, a hinterland
of unknowns- that is the ticket. That is the queue they will stand in for hours.
That is the imaginable becoming the manageable. That is learning.
As
educators, we want to be the voice of reason. The voice of knowledge. The voice
of consistency and hope. Yet, we as leaders often want to appear strong and invincible.
But it is the vulnerability, the “I’ve made a mistake and I apologize. I
corrected it and now it is all good,” that allows our explorers to trust us.
Every travel party takes a wrong turn now and again. That is part of the
journey.
I
have been a teacher for a long time, I have also upon reflection, noticed many
mistakes I have made in regard to, the ten phrases educators need to become comfortable
saying. One of which is above. Apologizing for simple mistakes, even a misspelled
word on a document means a lot. It shows you accept yourself as a learner too.
These
phrases I have listed below. I am sure most of us have wanted to say them, but
maybe thought about to long and the moment passed. They may be something we
feel comfortable revealing about ourselves on occasion, or they are a common
turn of phrase. However, they are phrases, that overtime have become more
comfortable members of my vernacular and for it- they have created deeper
relationships with my students.
- I
am sorry, I made a mistake and have corrected it.
- I
am sorry, I did not ask you if you needed help.
- I
am sorry, I let my frustration rear its ugly head.
- I
understand, you need time to process, I will stop talking for a minute.
- I
trust you, you got this.
- I
do not know the answer. I will find out for you.
- I
do not know how to do that can you help me?
- Thank
you for allowing me to teach you today.
- Thank
you for being you, you add a smile to my face every day.
- You
are rock stars, I simply the roadie.
These statements are spoken every week now. The words I have made integral to my speech have also become my catch words- like my catch phrases above.
The
five words seem obvious. Words we should use every day in our lives, inside and
outside the classroom. Yet, we get busy, distracted, and lost so much in our
dilemma- we can forget. But, when I pause, listen, and respond- actually address
the issue- I find, everything becomes easier. Morale becomes positive, frustration
wanes and trust heightens exponentially. It really does. I do not like to admit
when I am wrong. I do not like to be questioned when I feel I am right. None of
us do- but it should be a job requirement for educators.
We
are not in this profession to create followers and acceptors. We are in this
profession to help students think for themselves. To question things that do
not make sense to them. To not blindly listen to leaders, but to investigate
and discover the facts. Then choose what they believe is the right path to
traverse- the right jungle to enter with their machete of knowledge, analyzation,
and reason.
It
stings, it really does when students question our technique, our word choice,
our flow. But we have to. We have to lower our guard and truly listen. Because
our classroom is not a stage where the audience sits in quiet reverie. It is a
wilderness of branches that scratch, bugs that bite and sting. Yet, within its
density and bramble are beautiful flowers, plumage of birds and succession of life. Stages of
growth, all powerful and transformative.
We
need to say aloud our fears, realize them, and use them as signposts, markers
in our exploration. Like trackers we can use them to find our way through
troubling and overwhelming times. We are living within a storm of uncertainty
and as such- we are being bombarded with branches obscuring our path,
underbrush wrapping around our feet- passing seems difficult at best.
But
we have our own machete: honesty, acceptance, appreciation, faith, hope and grace.
It is this, our belief in this amazing outback. This gorgeous back country-
often unexplored, that will be our salvation. We are looking for the end, yet
it is off in the distance. What we need to be doing, is taking it all in.
Running our fingers against the bark, feeling out its rough edges, but also
recognizing its simplicity and symmetry. The wilderness has a lot to offer. Especially
when we slow our pace, listen for the sounds of nature, and welcome the
interaction between self and woodland, individual and thicket, timber, and
tree.
For
the wilderness is beholden to the energy of what surrounds it, builds it, feeds it, nurtures it. As leaders we are the wind, the rain, the soil and for this we
have a responsibility- to not hinder- but allow accessible, the parts of ourselves
others seek as the foundation of their own shelter and grove. Let’s be a force
of nature both transforming and gracious- this is our grace, this is our gift,
this is our germination.