Reasonable (357)

I hear this word a lot these days. Reasonable action. Reasonable expectations. Be reasonable. This person or that person is unreasonable. Reasonale is a vague word. What does it mean to be reasonable? To many it means being fair and equitable. Again, not clear. The word lends itself to ambiguity. Conciseness of reasonability is impossible, unless you have very specific expectations. Even then interpetation is personal.

I think reasonable in most cases, means simply to be adequate. Make sure everyone is getting what they need. Make moves towards something better. But doing so, in such a way, as to not cause unreasonable consequences. Right? The word can mean so many things. What I deem reasonable, you may consider down right unreasonable.

It is specifics and clarity that helps guide reasonability. Having expectations is only part of the picture. If you are vague on your options, routines or actions- is this unreasonable. Often someone who might be considered unreasonable is just living by a different set of parameters than you. Often it is pure exhaustion, pure frustration- that leads to unreasonableness. 

Whatever unreasonable action befalls your path- I guess the important thing to remember is why you consider it unreasonable? What situations do you consider reasonable? Are you reasonable when it comes to living a reasonable life? Talking in circles like this, using the word in an imprecise, nebulous, obscure manner, am I being unreasonable?

Using the right word at the right time is not always possible. For we speak out of turn, we speak before we think, we speak with our emotions, rather than our logic at times. So we are often incapable of being reasonable. Within the framework of what others see as reasonable anyway. I guess what I am trying to say is - treat yourself with a level of reasonableness you expect from others. Whatever your ideal reasonableness is that is.

If others do not find you reasonable- they might need to learn some reasonableness. So judge not your action, on what others require to fit their defintiion of reasonable. Be kind, be graceful, be forgiving, be generous and mindful- and hopefully these qualities fall within the reasonable- for those around you. This my friends is what being reasonable is all about.

Seeing, feeling, experiencing beyond expectations of others and living a joyful, loving, responsible life. For that is reasonable. And we are all reasonable when we stop to define the term to ourselves. When we consider the situation, listen to the sounds of behavior and look at the data- data we collect- we become more reasonable than we ever expected. Because honestly- reasonability is not finite, nor is it universal.

Reasonability is flexible- it is fluid and it encompasses all aspects of our lives. So be reasonable. See reasonability as a gift only you can bestow upon yourself and others. Then reasonability becomes something very reasonable. Right?