Parents Strengthen Classroom Dynamics: Include Them (50)

I wish that every parent and teacher knew that as educators, parents are our best allies. They know their child better than anyone: their personality, struggles, quirks and beautiful nuances. They entrust their children to us daily, they believe we will do what is best for their child and when we don’t do this, they are our harshest critic. I personally, appreciate their feedback. Parents should hold teachers to a high standard. They should pay attention to their child’s education and learning atmosphere. Is it a community? Is it a safe haven? Do their children feel safe and eager to be in school?

Parents listen to teachers’ opinions, often following their lead, without doubt, because they understand that they have their child’s learning and growth at heart. They know a great teacher when they meet one. They ask other parents, who their children had as a teacher, because they want to be prepared for the upcoming year. Teachers and parents are collaborators, at least they should be. They each carry with them part of the treasure map. Together the two halves, lead us to the perfect semblance of discipline, guidance and love. When they communicate regularly, and believe in the value of each other’s input, parents and teachers create a world where learning is where it should be, at the center of classroom life. 

I wish parents knew that we value them, appreciate their input. I wish teachers knew that parents, even though at times are overbearing and aggressive, are just looking out for their child. If they did, students would unequivocally know, we are all on the same side. They have caring eyes on them at home and at school. That they can ask questions, ask for help and share with us their struggles and frustrations so we together, can better serve their needs. I wish as a student, my parents and teachers had this collaboration, maybe then my formative learning years would have been more fruitful. Parents are a teacher’s greatest ally. In the education of their child, a teacher is a parents’ greatest ally. But, only through purposeful, meaningful dialogue can true cooperation take place.

This year I have eight siblings of former students. Two former students from five years ago. Two from three years ago and four from 1-2 years ago. At open house I was reminded of their faces, I remembered them and this made the parents very happy. My current students do not want to be compared with their siblings, so I do not. They in turn, eventually say "When my brother was in your class, or my sister said when she had you, she loved this project." It's funny the circle of things. Parents remember us too. They remember when their child had us and how we impacted their lives and they are excited they have the opportunity for their children to have us again.

Parents and students alike look for consistency. They look for fairness. They look for unity. If we have this respect, kindness and mindfulness reign supreme and we will be remembered.